Why don't I like going to school?

Not in the mood for school? 10 tips on how to motivate your child

Not all children enjoy going to school. Boring in class, no friends or bad grades - there are many reasons why the desire to learn can sometimes be lacking. But also some things that help against it. How parents motivate their children to go back to school.

Every child doesn't feel like going to school. This is how you give your child a motivational boost. Photo: PeopleImages - E +

Tip 1: Let children experiment

Parents don't need to instill the joy of learning, but they should try to maintain it. Children want to learn! From an early age they have a great need to discover the interrelationships of the world in order to understand them. Parents would therefore do well not to stop their eagerness to learn, not even if there is chaos in the apartment or if the schedule cannot be adhered to. The Italian Maria Montessori, the founder of Montessori pedagogy, believed that “experimentation makes you wise”. Because children need concrete experiences that leave them amazed: “Aha - that's how it is!” And they need parents who are happy with them about the aha experiences. In this way, successful learning is coupled with feelings such as joy and happiness. These beautiful emotions in turn provide motivation for learning. Independent trying out and experimenting are therefore not only the basis for new knowledge, but also for enjoying learning.

Tip 2: Stay relaxed before school starts

For most parents, starting school is a special moment that they look forward to not only with joy but also with concern. "Will my child fit into school?", "Will it feel comfortable there?", "Will it get along well in class?", Such questions arise. Parents shouldn't burden their child with worries. "You will learn to sit quietly at school!", "When you are at school, you mustn't argue against it", "You shouldn't argue with Louis, because he's the only one from kindergarten who is with you will go to school », sentences like this put the child in a negative mood for school as a place of learning. If you find it difficult to talk to your child in a relaxed and factual manner about school, you will find help in many picture books, which provide children with good information about what will happen to them in school.

Tip 3: Don't look at notes

"Does my child learn well, does it get along well?" Some parents think and talk about grades before the first grades are even given. It makes a lot of sense to think about the value of grades. Grades do not ensure a glorious future. They do not indicate whether a child is gifted for a subject or not. And most importantly, they say nothing about the worth of a child in and of themselves. They only answer the question of whether the child understood a certain learning content and was able to apply it on a certain day, on the day of the test. Much more important than working towards good grades is promoting the joy of doing.

Tip 4: Homework is child's play

Homework is a student thing! Parents who intervene too much can be demotivating. Let your child do their homework on their own and by their own standards. It is up to the teacher to talk to the child if the homework does not meet their expectations. Not pushing yourself with homework does not mean failing to provide help in desperate situations.

Tip 5: Maintain good contact with teachers

Parents and teachers don't always have to agree, but good communication makes communication easier. The better the connection to the teacher, the easier it is to solve difficulties before they degenerate into larger problems that could burden the child while studying. Respond to invitations to parenting days and parents' evenings. Clarify smaller questions in between by sending a letter that the child takes to school. If you have more complex problems, you can go to the consultation hour. “As a rule, parents can trust the teacher as an educational specialist - and at the same time maintain good contact. Then many misunderstandings can be avoided and problems can be easily clarified in short conversations », says Heidemarie Brosche, author of the guide« Why teachers are not so stupid after all ».

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Tip 6: Promote interests

School isn't the only place to learn. Life is so exciting - interesting experiences can be made everywhere that enrich and stimulate a child. What is your child currently interested in? For a child who loves animals, a visit to the animal shelter or the game reserve will be an exciting excursion. Does your child like to do arithmetic? Perhaps it will be a pleasure to take the first steps in programming. They may be interested in piano at the moment because they talked about Mozart in class.

Tip 7: Allow spontaneity

For a child, having an interest today does not mean wanting to commit to a hobby for many months. Life is colorful, there is so much to learn and discover! No learning experience is given away just because it doesn't take as long as adults might want. Even a short time in music lessons brings a lot - an impression of rhythm and harmony, more finger motor skills and concentration. A child who has to stay in a course, even though he has long since lost interest in the hobby, misses something interesting and loses a piece of the joy of learning.

Tip 8: Promote friendships

If you think back to your own school days, you may not remember the lessons first, but rather your classmates. Because the friends at school are the icing on the cake. It is therefore important to foster friendships. In this way you can create good play opportunities at home for the child and his school friends. It is more important than a lot of space to allow creativity and a certain amount of disorder.

Tip 9: Appreciate the child

"Parents should often praise their child," is often heard. But education experts are critical of praise, because praise can be dependent. A praise like “You are great because you got a good grade” connects the child's performance with his or her worth as a person. When children begin to get involved in praise, they have long since lost the fun of it. Encouragement like “You have practiced a lot, that's why you got a fiver”, on the other hand, promotes the will to become active on one's own initiative. This sentence does not include an evaluation according to personal standards, but is objectively understandable. Encouragement values ​​effort in itself without judging success. «Encouragement is a gift! Nobody has to earn it, ”write the authors of the parenting book“ STEP parenting training ”. Anyone who tries to encourage his child shows him: «You belong to us just as you are. You can make mistakes. " So encouragement doesn't expect perfection. The child learns to accept themselves as they are. In this respect, encouragement frees the child to go their own way and to judge successes for themselves.

Tip 10: to be a role model

Which bird is singing so beautifully? What does the earthworm do at night? Can you build a blowpipe yourself? Parents can show children again and again in everyday situations how much fun it is to learn. And they can be role models by pursuing their own interests - and telling the children about them.