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5 secret things a guy needs before he signs up and starts falling in love with you

Here are some secret things a guy needs before he can 100% indulge in you (but won't tell - or can't tell you)!

When it comes to getting a man to commit to a relationship, many women fail to crack the appropriate code.

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As most of us have noticed, there are two types of men:

Behind the curtain #1 is the kind of guy who absolutely loves his girlfriend - he puts her on a pedestal, treats her like a lady, and puts her luck above his own.

And behind the curtain # 2 is the type known as the "commitment phobus" - he doesn't seem to enjoy being in a relationship and pretends his engagement is of the involuntary kind.

But while most women think the second type of man is in the majority, the statistics actually say otherwise.

In fact, one study found that 95 percent of men openly admit that they view marriage as one of their ultimate goals in life.

So if that's what 95 percent of them seem to want, how can you get a guy to commit and actually fall in love with someone?

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It all comes down to how a man feels the obligation. To a man it's like picking a combination lock; if the numbers don't match, he'll be emotionally distant and unavailable instead of turning to the whole thing.

He could even come up with several one-tier excuses that women will no doubt find frustrating: “I have to concentrate on my career”, “I just need space”, or, "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now."

But these one-liners are not lies. He really believes what he says because the “numbers” on his engagement code don't match.

In other words, when he says: "I'm just not ready for a relationship yet"does he really mean “I'm just not ready for a relationship with you yet”.

While it hurts to hear this, understanding how to get a man to commit - and why and how he chooses to finally take the plunge - can save you heartache and help you understand men.

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The truth is, when he eventually runs into this one woman who creates the correct sequence of "numbers" to unlock his commitment combination, he will feel compelled to hold on to her. He'll commit to a relationship because he doesn't want to risk losing it.

So now we know that commitment isn't some type of male allergy. What you need to do is learn how to crack his engagement code and get your man to commit - and eventually fall in love with you.

Easier said than done, of course, considering that the average person is not good at expressing their emotional needs. That's where I come in!

Here are five things (they won't tell you) guys need before they commit to a relationship and start falling in love with you.

1. He needs you to desire him.

One of the keys to learning how to make your man happy is basic animal desires. In the pit of his stomach he must want you, long for you, thirst for you. He must miss you when you're not around, and he must feel a touch of pleasure when he hasn't seen you in a while.

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This desire arises from the play of opposites. He'll long for you and then he'll catch you; he will miss you and then he will fall in love with you; he will long for you and then you will give yourself to him.

It's creating and releasing tension, over and over again.

The way you create this tension is through your sexuality - tease him and then give in, run away from him playfully and then allow him to catch you, add ease and spontaneity to his life, give him lustful looks and then leaving the room, sending him sexy notes during the day, grabbing him and kissing him unexpectedly.

In summary, you can use your powerful feminine qualities to contrast his serious and calculated masculine nature.

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2. He needs your respect.

Respect is a cardinal virtue; it is the foundation of any relationship that will stand and stand the test of time. Respect can help rekindle a relationship long after the flame of love and lust has sputtered. Many men marry the woman who respects him, even through the woman who loves him.

Men can sleep, talk to, and care for the woman they love (and desire), but often love is not all they need.

Much of this has to do with the term “I love you”. This term can have different meanings for a man and a woman. A man can interpret it as “don't hurt me” or even “you're trapped”. Men see a woman's love as a commodity rather than something new.

Of course, the words feel good when he hears them, but they don't sing for his soul. Men have crippling imperfections that they tacitly fight throughout their lives.

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So, find out why you respect your man. What are you proud of him? What can you acknowledge him for? How can you make him feel good about himself? Then tell him. Don't just tell him you love him, tell him why you love him.

Another way to show your respect is to apologize if you made a mistake or said the wrong thing. You (and he) have to make the relationship more important than individual egos.

When he knows that you respect his character, he will let you in deeper and reveal other tender parts of his soul where he needs healing and support.

3. He must feel emotionally secure.

The third thing to consider when learning how to make your husband happy is his emotional health. By giving up your anger, bitterness, or any resentment you have against him, you are giving him a safe way to be vulnerable.

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This is done by placing your trust in him. And then he can trust you. You two allow yourself to be vulnerable, and that helps some relationship work.

However, for this vulnerability to take off, women usually have to be the initiators. Men are looking for someone to lead them into the vulnerable abyss.

It is a woman's courage to open up and take down her guard that inspires men to put down their psychological shields and relax.

So how do you do that Well, it helps if you learn how men think. He needs to know that you will not judge or criticize him. He needs to feel supported, accepted, and encouraged that you are on his side.

He needs to know that you will not tell your friends or (worse) your mother about his mistakes. He needs to know that you will stand up for him when others say bad things about him. He needs to know that you will address all injustices and problems head on.

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4. He needs you to challenge him.

The focus of every person is the challenge. Men grow through challenge. Challenge appeals to that part of their manhood that naturally drives them to conquer and win.

The challenge is the path men take to achieve success, which ultimately makes them feel respected.

In short, it really comes down to having a strong sense of your own values ​​- knowing what is important to you and standing by them. This creates the challenge that strengthens the relationship. Another element of this challenge is the ability to confront a man when one feels that these values ​​are in danger.

This may require you to confront him if you think he owes you an apology rather than leaving it behind. If you can confront him, he will find you incredibly attractive.

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Even if his first reaction is anger, the fact that you can resist him will change the way he looks at you. It will challenge him to be a better person.

5. He must feel awe and amazement.

The final step in learning how to make your man happy is good old-fashioned ecstasy. Being a little crazy yourself is a good thing; crazy, not crazy - skinny dipping in the ocean is good, but faking kidnapping for working late isn't.

Too often women are taught to feel bad because they are emotional, feel "crazy" and act unpredictably. But these feminine qualities are attracted to men. So embrace your femininity and let it enliven your relationship. This can help a man fall deeper and deeper in love with you.

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If you can really embody your instinctive feminine nature, you will give him the space to say things like, "There is just something about her that I love."

The code summary is simple. These tips will help you understand how to make your man happy:

  • Look for areas where you can be more sexual, playful, and teasing.
  • Find ways to recognize him for things he does that may go unnoticed.
  • Be proud of him for something that matters.
  • Trust yourself that you are strong enough to let go of your cover because if you do, the two of you can really be together.
  • Challenge yourself by standing by your values ​​in life.
  • Be yourself; be who you are supposed to be.
  • You don't need to think like a man to be successful with men, and you don't need to hide your femininity to have a successful relationship.

Let it out, be crazy, be dramatic and have fun. Be part of it. He'll love you more for it ...